You go on a first date; you order Spaghetti Bolognese and your date orders a Margherita Flatbread. You agree to share a tiramisu. You split the check after some flirtatious arguing and then your date walks you to your subway stop. You reach into your bag for your wallet and your train read flops out. Your date recoils; the kiss they were considering now turned to dust and disgust. You try to shove the book back into your bag, but it’s too late. “It’s, um, for research,” you say, blushing. “Yeah, no, of course,” they say, “but on an entirely unrelated note, I am going out of town for the next six months. Good night!”
Has this ever happened to you?
Has your taste in books been the thing holding you back from a thriving, energetic dating life? First thing: you should invest in a bag with larger interior pockets — your book should not be falling out of your bag so often! Second: you will want to reevaluate the books you are bringing with you on first dates. Even if your book is securely hidden, you never know if your date will peek into your bag while you’re in the bathroom. You should hide everything about your taste in literature if your taste in literature is leading to zero second dates. To that end, here is a list of books you should never, under any circumstances, bring with you on a first date.
Parable of the Sower by Octavia Butler
Do you want your date to know, right off the bat, that you have no hope for the future of humanity? Yes, Butler is terrifyingly prescient. Yes, it’s okay to talk about things like your favorite food and how many tacos you want to order before you tackle the bleak future of humanity.
The Witches by Roald Dahl
Are you a child? Is it Halloween? If not, then you’re probably a witch and you should probably be hiding it better on first dates.
1,000 Books to Read Before You Die by James Mustich
Honestly, how is anyone supposed to imagine building a life with you when you’re clearly going to be reading pretty much every minute between now and the day you die? Also, carrying this book around will probably give you back problems — not the most desirable quality in a mate.
Eileen by Ottessa Moshfegh
Ottessa Moshfegh is a master of writing terrible people in terrible circumstances. Maybe give it a few dates before you reveal to your date how much you enjoy reading about the dark and twisted depths of the human soul.
The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood
If you’re reading The Handmaid’s Tale now, it’s either because you’re studying for survival tips or you are intrigued by its political viewpoints. Either way, it’s going to be a major red flag to your date.
Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov
This one kind of speaks for itself, right?
My Struggle by Karl Ove Knausgård
Not to diminish anyone’s struggles, but showing up with 600 pages of them to a first date feels like a little bit much, no?
The Memory Police by Yōko Ogawa
Whether you’re obsessively holding on to memories like the protagonist in Ogawa’s book or trying to erase them like the titular police, neither is a good look for the start of a relationship. One suggests you might be a bit clingy and one is straight up gaslighting.
We could go on, but essentially, what we’re trying to tell you is this: your taste in books should reflect zero fear, zero ambition, and zero personality on first dates. Are you beginning to understand? May we suggest a copy of The Great Gatsby?
